“If wishes were fishes, we’d all cast nets.” – Frank Herbert, The Dune Storybook
What have you wished for lately? More clients for your business? A larger salary? Better health? Wouldn’t it be wonderful if just wishing for something could make it happen? Unfortunately, achieving your goals doesn’t happen by wishing. It comes from making a commitment.
More Than A Decision
Commitment is more than making a decision. It’s taking action to reach your goals and continuing to act even when things get messy.
Writing on the website “You Have A Calling,” therapist and coach Joseph Wilner states:
“Making a definite decision to be committed means you must take action. This means potential excuses must be accounted for ahead of time, and there can be no more waiting for the perfect moment. You must continue to take action despite resistance. You will encounter other people who are willing to support your cause, as well as people who threaten your insistence and steadfast purpose to its attainment. With this in mind, it will be important to hold your course.”
Even after we’ve made a commitment, fear can make us question the decision. “What if I don’t do it right? What if I can’t make it happen? I’ve failed before, so how do I know I won’t fail again?”
In a recent Lifehack article, entrepreneur Haim Pekel shares the three major reasons why people quit on commitment: “perfectionism, lack of faith, and a general inability to keep commitments due to a history of failures.”
“All three are bound to each other.” Says Pekel. “The more you fail, the less committed you become. If you’re less committed, you have less faith. If you don’t have faith in what you’re doing, every non-perfect condition can break your resolution. It’s that simple.”
The more we can fight to overcome our commitment roadblocks, the better our chances of finding the success we desire. You might consider working with a coach in this area.
Some Helpful Tips
On PaidToExist.com, Logan Marshall of The Free Life Project offers four steps to fully commit to your goals.
1. A Proper Mindset – “You must take a good look at your life and decide that nothing is going to stand in your way of success.”
2. Clear Goals – “Nail down exactly what you want, how you are going to get there and on what sort of timeline you plan to reach your destination.”
3. The Right Focus – This is not just work for the sake of work. “In order to achieve freedom and escape the trap of selling your time for money, you must be ruthlessly selective about what you work on and what you ignore.”
4. Personal Accountability – Figure out how to keep yourself accountable for achieving your goals, says Marshall. This will be different for everyone, but it’s a major key to success.
Committing to a goal—and the actions required to realize it—takes as much courage as it does planning. And while it’s not always easy, achieving the thing you set out to do really can change your life.