Stop the Stress – This Stuff Really Works!

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Stop the Stress – This Stuff Really Works!

The holidays are quickly approaching. For some people, this is a reason for joy and happy anticipation. For many others, it’s a cause for stress and anxiety. We often feel like we are pushing a heavy boulder up a hill, and we can sometimes feel crushed under the weight. Our responsibilities can feel overwhelming at times.

But have you ever considered that perhaps you’re bigger and stronger than that rock? That with the right set of tools, you could push the rock up that hill with ease? And that with a little planning, commitment, and guidance, that rock could, in fact, shrink significantly?

Your schedule is probably already over-filled during the entirety of the year, but come the holidays, it gets even fuller. You’re not sure when you’ll get the shopping, cleaning, cooking and office work done, let alone find the time for your own fitness, hobbies, and self-development.

If you feel overwhelmed during the holidays, you’re not alone. But make yourself  priority! (what an amazing idea, huh???)

Now is the time… making yourself a priority during the holiday season can set the tone for the entirety of the next year. Here are some tips to make yourself a priority this holiday season.

Learn to say no

That work party that you’re dreading – will it make or break your career to attend it? If not, don’t be afraid to say that your schedule is booked on that date. There’s no need to be more specific than that. Whether it’s booked with family time, relaxation time, or simply reading a book, grab that time for yourself.

Have you been asked to complete a massive project a week before a major holiday? Don’t be afraid to ask for an extension. If you ask with tact, you might be surprised at the response.

Delegate

Hosting a party? Invest in a little help. You’re already busy planning the meal. Hire help to clean the house. Enlist the help of other household members to help decorate, set the table, and prep some of the food.

Overwhelmed by thousands of emails in a single day? Consider hiring a temporary virtual assistant for the holiday season – have him or her filter your messages and only send you the truly important ones.

Grab your time first

Don’t wait until all the work is done before having “you time.” Wake up a few minutes earlier, and start the day with whatever makes you feel uplifted and ready for the day ahead. Whether it’s exercise, prayer, meditation, or a mixture of the three, start each day with a commitment to your own self-improvement. Start this habit during the holiday season and stick with it throughout – you’ll start the new year re-energized and ready for the challenges to come.

When you commit to yourself, you’ll be more than ready to help others in your charge. Neglecting yourself isn’t helpful when you’re in a relationship or when you’re a caregiver. Remember: self-care isn’t selfish. In fact, it could help you become a better giver.

Invest in yourself

Achieving your goals and conquering stress is sometimes best done with a little help. Enlisting the help of someone who can help you commit to yourself and stay accountable to that commitment can help you be successful from the very start. Success this holiday season will give you the boost and encouragement you need to keep pursuing your goals in the new year.

Life coaching can help you with that commitment. Book a free consultation to see how life coaching can help you push that rock up the hill – the rock is lighter than you think.

 

 

 


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Commitment plus Action Equals Success

Ditch the New Year’s Resolutions to achieve your goals in 2017

Do you make New Year’s resolutions each year-end? Do you have great success in the first month or two, only to abandon the changes by March? If so, don’t be too hard on yourself – this is the story for most people. But what if you could join the elite 8% who make New Year’s resolutions and actually accomplish them long-term? Chances are, with a few changes and a little guidance, you could do it too. And chances are, New Year’s resolutions don’t need to be part of the plan.

If you’re feeling disorganized, overwhelmed, and crunched for time, it’s  time to stop, take a deep breath, and get a little perspective on how to accomplish your most important goals. Successful people have a few things in common: clarity about what’s important to them, prioritization skills, commitment to their goals, and knowing how to overcome roadblocks. They don’t just concentrate on outcome goals – they also ensure they have process goals along the way. Here is a simple process you can use to make sure that you can consistently accomplish the things you set out to do.

Identify what’s important to you

Sometimes, in the busyness of life, we lose sight of what’s really important. Set aside some time in your schedule and write down the people and things you value the most in your life, in order of importance. This process will help guide you in deciding your most important goals, and will also help you prioritize and manage your time later on.

Identify your road blocks

Think about what’s preventing you from accomplishing your goals, and have an honest discussion with yourself (or with a coach) about whether those road blocks are real or imagined. If they are real, decide whether they are under your control. If they are, make a simple plan to tackle these road blocks head-on. A coach can help you with this process.

Make a plan and embrace daily habits

Once you’ve decided your most important goals, create daily and weekly habits to help you accomplish them. Often, having a consistent morning routine can have a positive effect in many areas of your life. The discipline and commitment required to create daily habits will spill over into commitment to your larger, long-term goals. Using a worksheet to set daily and weekly goals can help.

Embrace accountability and check on your progress

Finally, after you’ve made a commitment to accomplish those daily and weekly goals, having a judgement-free accountability buddy can also help you to stay on track. A life coach can keep you accountable while also helping you to find answers to your struggles along the way. Rather than handing you pre-made advice, a life coach can help you unlock the answers you already have, so you can own your accomplishments.

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This December 31st, don’t make New Year’s Resolutions. Make a commitment to yourself by setting weekly goals, daily goals, and by investing in yourself – so you can live your best life, on your own terms, while also being available for those who need you most.

Book your free discovery session today to see how life coaching can help you get results.


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Holiday Stress? Here’s How You Can Enjoy the Holidays Again

For many, the holidays are supposed to be a wonderful time of year – a time of connecting with loved ones, of spending quiet time in reflection, and for those who are religious, a time for celebrating various aspects of their faith. Yet, the holidays can also be a time of anxiety, stress, and of moving away from what we truly want in life, rather than closer to it. From braving crowded shopping malls, to trying to make the perfect meal, to having a beautifully decorated home, sometimes we can feel overwhelmed just by the thought that the holidays are approaching. We often forget our priorities and forget to commit to ourselves first during the holidays.

Prioritizing modern life is a difficult task, and the holidays sometimes make this task seem impossible. It’s hard enough to find the time in your daily life to exercise, read for pleasure, and simply spend time with your friends and family. When the holidays loom, the to-do list is already too long, but we keep adding to that list anyway. We often do the things we think we should be doing, rather than the things that bring us joy and fulfillment in life. For some, it’s enough to simply not want to participate in the holidays at all.

As stressful as they may be, the holidays are unavoidable (unless you want to run away from all friends and family during this time, which isn’t really feasible). Because of the inevitability of having to deal with this time of year, having a plan to stay organized will help you navigate the sometimes crooked paths of life during this time. But having a plan is not enough – you need to commit to that plan, make time for it, and ensure it happens. Here are some tips to help you stay organized during this holiday season.

Re-commit to yourself, your beliefs, and your goals

It’s easier to stay organized and to prevent feelings of overwhelm if you know your priorities. Making a commitment to taking care of yourself first is not selfish – as a matter of fact, it can greatly strengthen relationships. Remember that if you do not care for yourself, it is very difficult to care for others. Therefore, if something brings you stress this holiday season, it’s best to reconsider whether that something is worthy of your time.

Consider what is really needed.

Do you hate putting up Christmas lights, but still do it every year? Consider why you’re putting them up. If it doesn’t bring you joy, don’t do it. If you hate decorating, yet do it anyway, who are you doing it for? If putting up decorations is a source of stress and you don’t enjoy it, simply don’t do it. Use that time to re-connect with your loved ones instead. Use this thought process for any other to-do items on your holiday list.

Focus on what matters

For some, the holiday season means making more time for family and reconnecting with loved ones. For others, the holiday has a deep spiritual meaning. Whatever the holidays mean for you, always ask yourself if the task on your to do list will help you get closer to honouring that meaning. If not, set that task aside and move on.

How do you stay organized during the holiday season?


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To Improve Your Life, Improve Your Commitment

“If wishes were fishes, we’d all cast nets.”Frank Herbert, The Dune Storybook

What have you wished for lately? More clients for your business? A larger salary? Better health? Wouldn’t it be wonderful if just wishing for something could make it happen? Unfortunately, achieving your goals doesn’t happen by wishing. It comes from making a commitment.

More Than A Decision

Commitment is more than making a decision. It’s taking action to reach your goals and continuing to act even when things get messy.

Writing on the website “You Have A Calling,” therapist and coach Joseph Wilner states:

“Making a definite decision to be committed means you must take action. This means potential excuses must be accounted for ahead of time, and there can be no more waiting for the perfect moment. You must continue to take action despite resistance. You will encounter other people who are willing to support your cause, as well as people who threaten your insistence and steadfast purpose to its attainment. With this in mind, it will be important to hold your course.”

Conquering Roadblocks

Even after we’ve made a commitment, fear can make us question the decision. “What if I don’t do it right? What if I can’t make it happen? I’ve failed before, so how do I know I won’t fail again?”

In a recent Lifehack article, entrepreneur Haim Pekel shares the three major reasons why people quit on commitment: “perfectionism, lack of faith, and a general inability to keep commitments due to a history of failures.”

“All three are bound to each other.” Says Pekel. “The more you fail, the less committed you become. If you’re less committed, you have less faith. If you don’t have faith in what you’re doing, every non-perfect condition can break your resolution. It’s that simple.”

The more we can fight to overcome our commitment roadblocks, the better our chances of finding the success we desire. You might consider working with a coach in this area.

Some Helpful Tips

On PaidToExist.com, Logan Marshall of The Free Life Project offers four steps to fully commit to your goals.

1. A Proper Mindset – “You must take a good look at your life and decide that nothing is going to stand in your way of success.”

2. Clear Goals – “Nail down exactly what you want, how you are going to get there and on what sort of timeline you plan to reach your destination.”

3. The Right Focus – This is not just work for the sake of work. “In order to achieve freedom and escape the trap of selling your time for money, you must be ruthlessly selective about what you work on and what you ignore.”

4. Personal Accountability – Figure out how to keep yourself accountable for achieving your goals, says Marshall. This will be different for everyone, but it’s a major key to success.

Committing to a goal—and the actions required to realize it—takes as much courage as it does planning. And while it’s not always easy, achieving the thing you set out to do really can change your life.


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Discover What Fortune 500 Companies Know About Coaching & Why They Use It

Even the most successful business people, at all levels of their companies org structure, need help with setting priorities, finding areas for improved efficiency and increasing job satisfaction. Often people need some help in taking a step back and looking at the big picture.

A coach provides an objective ear, they listen and prod you to think deeper and more clearly, helping you get to the bottom of things you may not otherwise look at. They create a safe environment to be very honest and explore issues and goals and plans.

A good coach will help you find the gap between where you are and where you want to be and will help you bridge that gap.

Coaches will also help hold you accountable and help you take specific and intentional actions that are in alignment with your goals, beliefs and values.

A good coach can provide structure and support to the process, with various benchmarks and tasks along the way.
Take a look at athletes – they can’t do it alone, they have at least one coach and often many. Seeking out an expert who has the skillset and objectivity to guide you in the area that you spend the most of your daily time in makes sense and is bound to lead to increased success and more importantly, satisfaction.

Increased aware of strengths and weaknesses and a recommitment to goals allow both yourself and your company to enjoy increased productivity.

While it’s worth it to invest in yourself and hire a coach, it’s also possible that your company offers a program where they pay for coaching or even bring a coach in-house. With studies showing higher revenue for companies where their executives participate in coaching, it becomes a way to increase returns and not a cost center.

Still not sure how a coach could help you? Let’s explore a few other ways.

Coaches can see blind spots and guide you through them. Coaches have no agenda or goal other than to help you meet your goals and objectives, so they are honest and forthright, making it easier for you to accept the good and the bad. Typically a coach won’t give you the answer but will help identify the problem and prompt you to discover the solution with insightful questions.

Coaches are able to help you determine which weaknesses need to be improved and which are better left alone. They can help you decide where you will see the best return on your time and efforts.

Coaching can help you increase confidence, become a better leader, learn to deal with conflict, sharpen communication skills and trust your instincts in decision making.

Explore coaching on your own or as a program your employer offers and you will see almost immediate results and increased success building over time.


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This Is Truly “The Secret To Success”

celebrationThere is one HUGE difference between those who succeed and those who just drift through life, not quite getting what they want.  Do you know what it is?

Every single person has the ability to succeed and create wealth and happiness.  All it takes to create success is to truly grasp and execute this one concept.  That is worth repeating.  With one change in your life, you could set yourself up to reach all of your goals.

Not everyone is going to believe that and not everyone will keep reading because they are already doubting themselves so much they don’t believe me.

I am going to challenge you right now – read this entire post, absorb it and practice executing it every day for a week and then see how you feel.

What’s the worst that happens?  You waste some time and are disappointed?  Not a bad downside, especially when the upside is more likely and the rewards are so big.

Since you are still reading, I assume you’ve accepted the challenge.  Congratulations!

So what is the one HUGE difference between those who succeed and those who don’t?

Purpose.

life-purposeThose that know their purpose, those that know why they are here and what they want to do have a drive and a passion and a commitment that makes success inevitable.

It sounds so simple.  That’s because it is.

You still have to do the work to create success and you know what?  It’s probably going to be hard work.  But when you know deep in your gut – deep in soul what you need to be doing – that’s when you have the discipline and commitment to do what it takes and create the success that you used to wish for.

Think about it for a minute – every thing you do and don’t do is a choice.  And every single choice has consequences.  Sometimes those consequences are bad and sometimes they are good – so breathtakingly good.

If you don’t know what your purpose is and you aren’t committed to living that purpose, how can you make the best decisions?  How can you take consistent steps towards having exactly what you want when you haven’t clearly defined what you want?

You can’t.

So again I say, it really is that simple and that beautiful.  I mean think about it – you have the power to discover your purpose and then live it.  Amazing.

When you realize that all of your decisions are what creates your life and when you realize that most decisions are made with no purpose and goal in mind, it really can’t be that surprising that you aren’t where you want to be, right?

Every time you make a decision and there is an outcome, that experience shapes you.  So if you are experiencing disappointments and not getting anywhere, it’s so easy to feel like you just aren’t “meant to succeed” so you accept your fate and you get even further from your purpose.  You start simply existing.  Simply surviving each day.  Maybe you look forward to family time, or a vacation or watching a sports game and you are content.  But in your quiet moments you feel like there just has to be more.

There is more.  So much more.  And it’s all beautiful and exciting and there for the taking.

So for the next week, why don’t you focus on figuring out your purpose?  Figure out what makes you want to jump out of bed in the morning and get started.  Don’t worry yet how.  Don’t tell yourself you can’t and censor yourself.  Just spend some time figuring out what you think you are meant to do and what would bring you the satisfaction, fulfillment and joy that you deserve.

I offer a complimentary session to see if coaching is right for you – we can start to explore your purpose.  You may not feel like you have one – but it is there – deep inside you.  We just need to bring it out.  I know what questions to ask to guide you to discovering your purpose.

Once you truly know your purpose, it will give you the passion and strength and endurance to face down obstacles along the way.  It will help you follow through and commit to yourself and your goals.

 


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Commitment in Action

doitEvery day I live what I work with my clients on.  I live to fulfill my purpose and be true to my values and I remain committed and dedicated to my goals.  It’s not always easy.  There are days when I don’t “feel like it” and days when I am so busy I don’t know how I am going to get it all done.

I have recently been excited about talking about the things that stop us from being successful and there are many but I’m going to highlight a few below that have helped me a lot

I hope you find this list helpful and would love for you to comment and share any tools or tips and tricks you use.

I know that this is one that we hear over and over again and it seems a little boring but it’s essential… My calendar. I am all about planning my time and ensuring that there is time allocated for each of the areas in my life that are important and that I have goals for.  I plan exercise time, I plan my “Morning Miracle” time, I plan family and friend time, personal growth and development time and so much more.  I find it makes it easier when I have a block of time and I may not be feeling that motivated, to just look at my calendar and know what I am supposed to be doing.  I decided in advance this was important and scheduled it, so who am I to question myself now?  I need to just do it!

Another action I take  is focusing on feeling empowered.  On realizing that I have a choice – every minute, every incident – I always have a choice.  I may not “feel like it” but when I realize it’s a choice and I can do it anyway and be a step closer to my goal, it motivates me.  It is also a matter of pride and self-esteem.  If I can’t count on my own word, how can I end each day feeling good about myself?

Something I believe is essential and that successful people bring into their life  is accountability.  Reporting back to someone and remaining accountable for the commitments I made is very powerful.  As a Life Coach, I am an automatic accountability partner for my clients and it helps them so much.  It inspired me to start being accountable to myself and to my accountability partner.

I live the stuff that I am teaching my clients, so I understand it’s not always easy but I also understand how it feels to follow through and be true to your word and to see your goals becoming a reality.  It’s powerful and beautiful and so remarkable how we can truly make things happen for ourselves.

Let me share an example: I had a dentist appointment the other day, so I had to reschedule a client.  She really needed to speak to me and didn’t have very much flexibility in her schedule, so we agreed on 6:30am for our session.  I am committed to my Miracle Morning routine, so I knew that meant I had to get up at 5:00am in order to complete my routine and prepare for the phone session.  My first reaction was “wow, so early” but instantly I was inspired by myself.  Simply by deciding that following through on my commitment to myself and to my life, I was energized and losing that extra bit of sleep one day just didn’t matter.

In fact for a few days, I had been waking up feeling a little off, maybe slightly grumpy.  And every one of those days, by the time my Miracle Morning routine was completed, I felt energized and happy and so alive – including the day I had to do it at 5am.

So you see, that is why I do this.  I do this because I see my life and myself improving every single day that I decide I am worth the effort and time to follow through on my commitments to myself.

That is commitment in action and it’s beautiful!

 


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Real Life Regret – When It’s Too Late. A Personal Story

dcs“One of the saddest things in life is to wake up one day and realize that YOU could have been, done, and had so much more.”  Hal Elrod

Today I wanted to share something deeply personal. After my mom passed away last month, I started thinking about this quote.  It resonated with me and I keep being drawn back to consider it.  What happened next cemented the important message for me…

In going through her things, I found a paper with her IQ score that she had saved all these years.  It indicated that she was a genius.  When I look at how she lived her life and what she could have been and done, I was perplexed.  Why didn’t she do more with her natural gifts?  On her dying day, she shared with me that at the point she truly wished she had been and done more.

It is true I am a strong believe that everything is perfect how it is but I know that if my mom had discipline and commitment her life and many others would have been so much more fulfilling.

She was a couch Psychologist and she helped every person that came into her life.  The proof of this was in her Eulogy, which was all about t what a difference the long and insightful conversations she had with her Grandchildren made in their lives.

We hear all the time that life is short and in moments of tragedy, we feel it and we feel compelled to do more, to be more.  But as life gets back to normal and the every day demands kick in and we get tired and distracted, we lose some of that passion and drive that comes from realizing we only truly have a brief moment of time on this earth.

Do you want to look back and wish you had done more?  Or would you rather push yourself more now – even when you are tired and busy?

Realizing that there is more and that YOU can do more to attain more.  More happiness. More health, More wealth.  More love.  More adventure and excitement. It’s all there for the taking.

Do you know why you aren’t grabbing for it?  Do you know what is holding you back?  Do you know why you haven’t made a decision to start doing things differently now?

You aren’t alone – there are some real reasons why people don’t do more and try more.  Understanding these reasons is the first step in beating them and going after more!

10 causes of poor self-discipline:

  1. Instant gratification: if you don’t get it, you don’t want to put the work in
  2. Letting Feelings dictate actions: “I don’t feel like it right now”
  3. Living with excuses: “I hurt my foot and I didn’t sleep much, so why would I do extra work now?”
  4. The need for variety: “I don’t want to do this every day, I’m ready to try something new and give up on this for now”
  5. The some day mentality: “I’m not going anywhere, I can get to this tomorrow or next week:
  6. Isolating incidence: “Right now I’m not going to do it, but that’s only right now, I have the rest of the day and week to do it, I’ll get to it, no big deal if I don’t act now”
  7. Not being committed for the long term: “Wow, this is taking longer than I thought, maybe I don’t really want it”
  8. Waiting for breakthroughs: “I know something is going to hit me, a new way to do this, a new idea, a burst of energy, I’m just going to sit on it for a bit”
  9. Not believing your goals and dreams are possible: “I’m not really a lucky person, so am I really likely to be able to reach this goal? Probably not”
  10. A past oriented vision: “I’ve never followed through in the past, I’ve never reached my goals, so this time probably won’t be different”

Source: Hal Elrod, author of the Miracle Morning

Get the Miracle Morning book and journal on Amazon or hire a coach!  The time is now!  No one but you can make your life better. With a little discipline and commitment – everything you want is possible.

 


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NOW

“Your life is the sum result of all of the choices you make, both consciously and unconsciously.  If you can control the process of choosing, you can take control of your life.  You can find the freedom that comes from being completely in charge of yourself.”  – Robert F. Bennett

heThis really ties into a post I wrote earlier about doing things even if you don’t “feel like it”.  Life is busy, and chaotic and things get in the way but you always get to choose how to respond and what to spend time on.  You get to choose to take action to put yourself a step closer to your goals.

You may be tired or sad or sick and those are all really valid but you also have a long term vision for your life and you need to take action to create it and live it.

This great quote by Robin Sharma is a great reminder and eye opener:

“One of the saddest things in life is to wake up one day and realize that you could’ve been, done, and had so much more.”

If you want something bad enough, you will commit to it.  So it all starts with finding out what you want badly enough to commit to and then from there you make a plan and follow through.

I love Hal Elrod, his quote “The #1 cause of unfulfilled potential, mediocrity and regret is never deciding that NOW matters more than any other time in our lives.  It does.”

Pretty powerful stuff.  It’s so empowering when you realize how much control you have over your life and the outcomes.

Are you living the life you want?  Are you working towards goals daily, weekly and monthly?

The best time to make positive changes in your life is NOW.  Do you have a plan to make those positive changes?

That’s what I do.. that’s what I can help you with.  It’s my passion, my hope, my dream to make a difference in this world, leave the world a better place because of my effort.

I will be rolling out a great newsletter soon that will contain lots of wonderful quotes, ideas, and coaching to help create a better life for you… Even if I provide one little bit of information that you can run with.. I have fulfilled by goal to selflessly add value to the lives of others.. and you have taken steps to make a difference in your own life.

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How does discipline show up in your life?

commitment“Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishments”  – Jim Rohn

Do you want to create more discipline and accountability in your life? A life coach is an accountability partner.  Schedule a session with me so we can discuss how it works (link to my schedule)

How does discipline show up in your life?

What are you doing on a daily basis – that you are consistent with and seeing the results?

  • Working out?
  • Dieting?
  • Routines with children?
  • Meditate every day?

What can you do that will you reach your goals?

There are so many areas that require consistency and discipline and it’s often hard to obtain.  That’s why our annual New Years resolutions are so popular, it feels like a fresh start and an attempt to create discipline in our lives that we feel is lacking.  There is no reason to wait for New Years though – every single moment is a fresh start.  Every time you have a decision to make to do something or not do something that will put you a step closer to your goals, it is a fresh start.  YOU are in control and get to decide to exercise that discipline and go after what you want.

Sometimes breaking it down into small steps helps.  What if you did a 30 day challenge?  Focus on 30 day increments of discipline related to your goals.

Here is a list given by Hal Elrod on the 10 causes of Poor Self- Discipline –  pick out the ones that you identify with?  Let’s work on those together!

  1. Instant gratification – choosing short term pleasure over long term success
  2.  Letting feelings dictate actions (the “I don’t feel like it syndrome)
  3.  Living with excuses (instead of accepting 100% responsibility)
  4.  The need for variety (getting bored with routine)
  5.  The someday mentality (mistakenly thinking you can wait to be great)
  6.  Isolating incidence – ONE OF MY FAVORITES – thinking each choice you make only affects the choice at hand.. (example: I can skip today’s routing… later feeling like you were not consistent)
  7.  Not being committed for the long term – What could you accomplish this year?
  8.  Waiting for breakthroughs (or thinking there is a quick fix)
  9.  Not believing you r goals and dreams are possible (so what’s the point)
  10.  A past oriented vision (rear-view mirror syndrome) it didn’t happen when I tried it the last time.. probably won’t happen this time

EVERY PASSING MOMENT IS ANOTHER CHANCE TO TURN IT ALL AROUND – HAL ALROD

Source:  www.halelrod.com